Technology Sucks.

The Texting Chase.

As I think about the Steps of Communication with that choice crush.  I do believe it goes:

Email < Facebook < Phone Text< Phone Call < Meet in Person

At least according to Justcallher.com.  I’ve got to disagree on this.  Maybe im somewhat old-fashioned, but I’ve at least got to skip the Facebook & email, or at least put those to the back.  For me it goes this way:

Text < Meet in Person < Call < Facebook <Email

I have friends in person that I still haven’t yet added on Facebook, and I have dates with guys that still haven’t called me yet.  I think you can date someone for weeks without getting the ring, phone call that is. 

I believe for a girl you’re putting all your eggs into those texts to get that date.  So you’d better be witty, flirty, and grammatically correct.

First things first…TIMING.

Now I’m not thinking timing like, is this person “the One? “ Am I ready for this? No, no, no.  Skip all of that because you already gave him your number. 

I’m thinking more like the delay.  The making-him-wait dance.  Never text back right away.  I don’t care if he tells you, ”do you want to hang out right now im in front of your house?”  Delay is necessary.  Wait at least 15 minutes, although I would wait a little longer.  I know some girls think they’re beyond the game, the chase, etc.  No one is, and if a girl wants to be anything it’s got to be mysterious.  Nothing keeps a guy coming back faster. 

And he knows how to play the game too, trust me.  Give him the attention he gives you.  After the initial text take as long as he does.  If he texts back right away, you can do the same.  If he takes 30 minutes, take 30 minutes.  Being too available to someone, or possibly more available to them then they are to you is recipe for disaster.

Secondly…CHARM.

I’ve got to say watching girls flirt can be an intrigue or a total disaster.  It’s got to be an art.  Just the right amount of push and pull.  Too much push: You’re desperate for love or slutty.  Too much pull: You’re a bitch, snob, or not interested.  Push and pull brings back some of that good stuff guys want to smoke….mystery.  If he doesn’t know what to expect from you next he doesn’t know where you’re going, and that usually means he wants to follow. 

Much of this can be done in person, but its amazing what a little coy, upfront, flirty,  & opinionated can get you.  Keep him on his toes….always.

Thirdly….KNOW WHEN TO STOP.

Texting can become tedious after awhile.  Don’t be the one that lags the conversation, when it dies down cut it.  Trust me you don’t want to end up being the one that’s chasing him.  That’s what the phone or dates are for.  So get him interested enough just to call you or take you out.

Texting is your real first date so act accordingly.

A.